Tuesday, September 13, 2016

but it's different for girls.


have y'all hear this track yet from mr. bentley?
i've had his new album, black, on repeat all week in preps for 
our GNO to his concert this saturday,
and absolutely cannot get enough of this song.

you see,
a few months ago i was on a first date with a guy.
it had become apparent at about the 10 minute mark of the evening,
that it wasn't going anywhere in the chemistry department.

(side note: after having an in depth conversation with my dear friend linds,
i no longer feel like a crazy-pain-in-the-backside when i say, chemistry is huge for me.
and it's either there or it's not.
and yes, to all you nay-sayers,
i've tried the "let it grow thing"
doesn't work. might not ever. it is what it is.
now, back to the story)

the good news is, 
what also had become apparent was that whatever we lacked of chemistry,
we had in the ability to make great conversation.
so we skipped into all the topics you aren't supposed to talk about on a first date.
like the exes and the oh-nos.
after recalling our best dates, our worst dates, our relationship flaws and all,
we, inevitably, hit the topic of heartbreak.
he was actually coming off of one,
i was coming off of one i had caused,
it was such a thought opening dynamic to get into.
because when it comes to it, we all react so differently.
for me? coping is diet coke, my bed and hours of gone with the wind viewing.
for him? a busy schedule, nights out with the guys and sleeping in.

enter: dierks and elle.
after expressing these conclusions,
i immediately pulled out my phone, hijacked the car jack and turned this tune on.

we proceeded to listen to it on repeat all night long.
him sharing his ideas and me sharing mine.
two sorta strangers having one of the best conversations both knowing we would never see nor hear from the other person again beyond that night.

and that's life.
may it ever be a teacher to us all in the strangely best of ways.
xxoo.

Saturday, September 10, 2016

thee dazzling rhinestone revue.









i was first introduced to kacey musgraves 4 years ago when i heard her song,
merry go 'round, on country radio.
it's well written & the melody will leave ya hooked,
but more so it was how deeply the message resonated with me that had me instantly downloading.
if you've ever heard the song,
you know the story of the small town girl trying to break free of the mold.
and while i am from the furthest thing from a small town,
sometimes i feel like my culture is close enough to one.
now, let me very firmly say,
my feelings toward being a bit of an outsider to the typical mormon girl box,
 have nothing to do with my spiritual foundation and testimony of the gospel.
instead, it has everything to do with the fact that, 
if i have to see someone's eyes pop one more time when they discover 
i'm 29, unmarried & fine with all of the above,
i might lose it a bit.
it's a good thing one's relationship with the Lord has nothing to do with their marital status.
anywhoo...the message hit close to home.
and i have been a die hard musgraves advocate ever since.

she's taken the more difficult road in country music by staying true to her roots
and not falling into the main stream.
you'll never hear her on a powerhouse gas-pedal-pusher like ms. carrie,
and if you don't like the pure country twang of those opry originals,
she might bore you out of your mind.
but i've found it incredibly hard not to get hooked on her lyrics.
she often says what everyone wants to,
but most are far too shy to fess up to.
yah know, one of my kind of people.
needless to say she's been on my short list of those i must see in concert for quite some time.
but she & moi have never seemed to land in the same place,
UNTIL last thursday when thee country & western rhinestone revue tour hit SLC.

so i put on my best kacey wannabe dress & western scarf combo,
and sang to my heart's content.
she was flawless.
but really...her voice is melodic perfection, people.
she's sharp, witty and has an adorable repore with her crowd,
including a talent show portion where each of the guys in her band showed off talents such as,
ballon animal making and juggling.
yep, that really happened.
and speaking of her band,
the guys marched onto the stage dressed in mariachi jackets covered in sparkly twinkle lights,
thee perfect compliment to the hot pink streamers lining the stage,
and the disco ball that glittered above.
i've always said,
she's the kind of cowgirl that would ride in on a unicorn.

and while the entire thing was like loretta lynn & katy perry raised a daughter and named her kacey,
my favorite part came at the end, when she sang what is most likely her most famous song,
follow your arrow.
during the musical interlude she explained that she had met two women during the meet & greet who said they were going to use her song, 
late to the party
as their wedding song.
she explained how happy that made her because they had learned to follow their arrows in life.
but then she explained that some people don't agree with that way of following their arrow, 
and that is just great, too. 
because they're following where their arrows point, as well.
and that's honestly what it's all about.
less judgement placed and a lot more love.
i'll just do me, hunny, and you can just do you.
**drops mic**

okay, she didn't really drop the mic,
but the message might as well have lead to one.
because i think that's what we most often forget,
that acceptance isn't about agreement.
it's about embracing people because it's the human thing to do,
regardless of whether we agree or disagree with each other's choices.

sparkles & a message of love.
i can't think of a better way to spend a thursday night.
xxoo.